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Negative Feedback? Stick to your Guns
Negative Feedback Hurts
“Look at the abundance you have. Get a grip, Heidi.”
I spit out my coffee. Woah. I was being accused of “broadcasting my woes” as a one dimensional banshee. These weren’t the type of Instagram comments I expected at 6am.
The comments were about my blog post where I wrote about the challenges of 2020 including a separation. It was my truth. But someone didn’t like it and decided to graffiti my social media feed.
I tried to think of where this person might be coming from.
Perhaps they felt my pain was blame, incriminating my ex partner. In reality, we both caused each other pain. Separation and divorce, especially with children, hurts. It’s like agreeing to let a doctor hack off a limb that has turned gangrenous. You know it’s the right thing to do, but you still wish you didn’t have to lose your leg. So you scream.
Perhaps they felt I was complaining. I mean, did I really have it that bad in the pandemic compared to those who lost family members or businesses? Weren’t other separations much worse where the father wasn’t lovingly involved in the children’s lives? How dare I complain about my depression. I mean, you know what they say about complainers…
“A complaining tongue reveals…
